A Fresh Start: 3 Ways to Adjust to Life After Divorce
July 20, 2018
Denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance — the five stages of grief. While we normally think this applies to a tragic death, you can find yourself dealing with these emotions following a divorce. Getting through these stages can feel like a daunting task; however, there are certain things you can do to overcome even the most difficult of divorces. Here are a few of them.
#1. Reflect on The Divorce
The first step to getting over your divorce is acknowledging that your marriage is over, no matter how difficult it may seem. Your friends and family will come in handy during this time. Schedule some time to hang out with your closest pals and allow yourself to vent out any resentfulness you may be harboring. Talking to a therapist can also help you work through your feelings. Reflect on the possible perks of your breakup. For instance, you hopefully don’t feel like you are walking on eggshells anymore.
#2. Make Time for Yourself
When you get accustomed to living with someone else, making choices on your own and even spending time alone can be difficult. You need to adjust to the new changes and start taking care of yourself; otherwise, you will find yourself becoming increasingly unproductive as the divorce takes a toll on you. Take a stroll, go for a hike, read a book, ride a bike, go swimming – reinvent yourself. Visiting new places is also a great way to get outside your comfort zone and rediscover yourself. Explore the national parks that seem interesting to you and eat in the restaurants that you like. In the end, you will find that you are more aware of what you like and don’t like when there is no one else influencing your decisions.
#3. Set New Goals
Working on a new goal can give you something to focus on apart from your divorce. It can motivate you to beat depression, helping you realize that there is life after divorce. A new goal can be something as simple as picking up a new hobby, or it can be slightly complicated like planning and working toward a certain financial target. You can also set goals to meet new people after some time. The truth is, not all relationships remain strong after such an emotionally taxing event as a divorce. While you don’t have to ditch your old friends, it is natural for some of them to drift apart or become toxic for your survival during this time. Social groups and organizations are an excellent way to meet new people, including potential dates!
The most important thing to keep in mind after a divorce is that life does not stop. Keep your mind occupied and make an effort to meet new people who share similar interests. For any legal advice concerning family law, Tad Davis Law is at your service. Contact us today.