4 Tips for Staying Sane During Your Divorce
Feb. 20, 2018
Everyone knows divorce is difficult, but it doesn’t have to control your emotions. If you are going through a divorce, you may be coping with feelings of loneliness, anger, guilt, or depression. You don’t have to let your emotions get the best of you during this difficult time, however. Whether you’re in the middle of a divorce or just thinking about it for the first time, consider these four tips to keeping your sanity through it all.
Develop an Inner Circle
Divorce can feel isolating, as if you are fighting the battle alone. However, a strong support system of people you trust can be invaluable during this process. You might reach out to a divorce support group, friends, or family members who you trust and who will listen to your feelings. Avoid people who tend to give radical or extreme advice, though. They may make things worse by dragging your ex through the mud and stoking negative emotions. Alternatively, they may take the things that you say back to your ex. Find people who are objective and who are there to simply listen and be supportive. If you prefer to keep your divorce to yourself, a licensed counselor may be the best way to go.
Get a Hobby
Taking on a new activity may be the last thing you want to do, but doing something for yourself for even just one hour a week may be what you need to refocus your energy towards something positive. Joining a weekly running group, attending yoga, signing up for a painting class, getting involved with volunteering, or attending a meetup group can make you feel re-energized and re-establish your goals and values.
It may seem basic, but journaling can be an excellent way to work through any emotions you may be experiencing and can lead to you feeling calmer and less stressed. Allow yourself 30 minutes each day to journal about whatever it is that is on your mind. Focus on any feelings of anxiety or sadness and work to identify the exact cause of those feelings, such as shame, guilt, or anxiety. If you don’t think you have anything specific to write about, just allow yourself to write any and everything in your mind. Once you are done, you should feel more positive emotions, such as understanding, forgiveness, and relief.
Hire an Experienced Family Law Attorney
Having a knowledgeable family law lawyer on your side during a divorce can make the process significantly easier. Any lawyer you hire will be required to meet deadlines and file paperwork on your behalf, cutting down the legwork you have to do. A lawyer can and will do the negotiating for you, therefore eliminating any contentious conversations with your ex that can lead to stress or depression. A lawyer can also negotiate on your behalf and give you a voice, allowing you to know that you did all you could to arrive at the best outcome. Finally, just knowing someone is on your team can significantly improve your confidence during your divorce.
If you are facing a divorce in Arizona, you don’t have to go through it alone. Reach out to the compassionate and knowledgeable team at the Law Office of Tad Davis today.